When disaster strikes a friend or family member, you want to help. But there is a fine line between helping and interfering.
For someone who has suddenly lost a job, being sucked into the vortex of multiple thoughts and emotions that accompany such an event leaves little room to process very much information coming from others – even people who care a great deal.
Sometimes, a simple, gentle response is all a person needs.
Knowing what not to say/do when someone has suffered loss of employment, or experienced other bad news, can be a helpful start in knowing what to say.
It’s natural to default to one of the above examples when you’re caught off guard and need an immediate response. Humans depend on each other for encouragement. When a family member, friend, or colleague has been laid off, hearing a gentle and encouraging voice will be appreciated. Kind and simple sentiments bring strength: “I’m sorry you’ve been laid off.”
Knowing another person is there for you acknowledges the need to have someone stand by you, even commiserate with you.
Every one of us have been in circumstances without a clue as to how we got there, but we know we don’t like it!
When those situations arise, hearing someone say, “Know that I am here for you, whenever you want to talk,” is not only a pledge of moral support, but it is an acknowledgement that sometimes bad things happen and good people are affected.
You might also consider these short responses that go a long way:
Of course, there are no words that will erase the emotional experience of losing a job. But the right words, delivered with genuine kindness, will help ease the shock.
Human hearts, it seems, open to gentle influences. We all need love and support. Regardless of how you choose to voice your support, having a positive tone throughout your conversation will be uplifting. Consideration, courtesy, and common sense will serve as your guide in knowing what to say and offer.