Awareness is the degree to which we are alert and attentive to our internal states, preferences, intuitions, and surroundings. We can identify our emotions, perceptions, strengths, and weaknesses, and realize that others also strive for these habits.
When mindfulness and intentionality are taken on as life goals, the actions of kindness and courtesy satisfy and reward us, giving a sense that we are helping to make the world a better place.
Being both realistic and optimistic helps a person explore what it means to be “recognizably respectful” throughout all situations involving others. It always comes down to awareness: “What’s it like to be on the other side of me?”
Consideration of other people not only makes you etiquette-ful, it shifts your perspective outside of yourself, making you more friendly and approachable. In any given social situation, you are called upon to make eye contact, greet people, and begin a conversation. These etiquette skills will only seem forced or robotic if you are not socially aware enough to put them in the context of your environment and audience.
You can enhance both your social awareness and etiquette skills by practicing the following:
The degree to which you socialize with other people depends on your comfort level. Whether you feel at home in a crowded room of strangers or search frantically for a friend you can hang out with throughout the event depends on what you’re comfortable with.
But the thing that can increase your confidence and, therefore, your comfort level in social situations is your knowledge of etiquette skills. Knowing what is expected of you and that you have the skills to meet that expectation, will make you confident in taking necessary action.
And when your confidence wanes, being self-aware enough to know that you need to adopt a new skill set or make some emotional adjustments to pick yourself up will serve you well. Give yourself an awareness check with these questions:
Knowing you, how you act and react, and how you relate to other people is a great help in understanding how to navigate your life socially and professionally. And when you help other people feel heard, acknowledged, and respected, you, too, benefit by the internal civilizing awareness that etiquette can help you be the person you want to be.