When given genuinely, compliments are a kind of music, playing back to our own ears the response of another’s pleasure, teaching us then and there, that our social skills are indeed intact.
Sometimes compliments are how things get started; that is, on a date or at a party, and noticing an item of jewelry might be the perfect conversation starter.
Showing appreciation for what someone is wearing can be particularly meaningful. Especially when it relates to jewelry. When a person chooses to accessorize with jewelry, they have privately, and perhaps subconsciously, made a decision about what complements their style.
Truth be told, we are all a little sensitive about what we wear. Our clothes and accessories say something about us and give others a chance to notice us. We wouldn’t purposely wear what wouldn’t be compliment-worthy.
For this reason, when you admire a piece of jewelry someone has chosen to wear, your admiration is better received if your compliment is worded appropriately.
The reciprocal “Thank you,” is usually a starting place to continue the conversation. “Yes, and I love the opportunity to wear something that my auntie gave to me for a congratulations gift after I got my first job . . .” or, “. . . My sister and I love going to antique shops and I found this pendant and added a new chain . . .”
When mentioning something as personal as jewelry, thoughtfulness and sincerity are necessary.
Avoid taking your compliment in these directions:
The jewelry people wear often has a story behind it. It might have been inherited from a beloved relative, given to mark a special occasion, purchased to mark a personal milestone, or found in a grandmother’s attic.
Stories behind a piece of jewelry are usually not long and complicated and can make for an interesting conversation. However, when you engage in conversation about someone’s jewelry, it is important to remain agreeable.
Most jewelry, no matter the retail value of it, is priceless when it comes to sentimental value. And sentiments are deserving of our respect.