A grumpy coworker doesn’t just have the potential to put a damper on your day, but on your entire work life. When you work directly with such a person, it’s difficult not to let their negativity influence your attitude.
However, there are ways to deal with people like this without spending too much emotional energy on them.
Everyone has a bad day occasionally. But when you’ve labeled someone as a grumpy coworker, odds are their bad days are perpetual.
Empathy and compassion help smooth over the emotions you may feel when you receive a rude retort, clipped answer to a question, or a curt email response. While there is no excuse for repeated behavior like this in a professional setting, understanding there may be a reason for it can help you relate.
During the course of everyday work conversation, you might try getting your coworker to talk about their attitude or the goings on in their life.
Everyone has a story, some more pleasant than others. While it may not be appropriate to delve too deeply into your coworkers’ personal issues or circumstances, knowing these things influence someone’s perspective and, therefore, general attitude can be helpful when you are about to take an insensitive remark personally.
While you can’t control other people, you do have control over yourself. Know your own mind and how you feel about your work and the establishment in which you do your work.
If you enjoy what you do, don’t let one bad seed ruin it for you. Granted, this is easier said than done. Especially if you work in a small business and have limited other people to associate with besides your grumpy coworker.
If you look for the good in someone, you will inevitably find it. Use this good to help you control your own emotions.
A little grumpiness is one thing. But when the attitude and treatment of others becomes so negative as to interfere with overall morale and general productivity, something must be done.
If you’ve attempted to deal with your grumpy coworker on your own, within the guidelines of company policy and to no avail, it may be time to take next steps. Speaking with management or your human resources department will be necessary.
During your meeting, share the highlights of your pro-con list to provide a fair assessment of your coworker’s contribution to the workplace. Also, provide evidence of how the person is affecting other people.
If nothing changes, whether in attitude or in work environment, it may be time to begin circulating your resume. This is a tough decision to make, but a better opportunity could be just around the corner.
Living with extreme negativity from another person is incredibly difficult and can affect you mentally and emotionally. And while grumpy people are everywhere, it is important to remember that nothing changes unless you take action.