Besides skills, knowledge, and a network of friends, etiquette creates opportunities for success or advancement by making you the type of person others want to be around. The people skills of courtesy, kindness, interest, and compassion ensure that you are likable and trustworthy.
And someone who is liked and trusted will always have the support of those around them.
There are certain truths in life that we must learn on our own. That we will have to measure up is one of those realities, which may mean going beyond meeting minimum expectations or requirements.
In business and social circles, there are people who don’t fit in or aren’t invited into the circle. They didn’t measure up, or weren't included, for whatever reason. But those who do fit in had something in common or some desirable quality that helped them measure up.
Etiquette creates opportunities to measure up because those who employ it are easy to be with. Think of the type of person you prefer to be around. Someone who is nervous and lacking confidence, or someone who is interested in you, asks thoughtful questions, and puts you at ease?
Civility is a matter of common sense and good judgment. And if it is a core mind and heart intention, a person can devote their attention to learning the in’s and out’s of behaving well. When you are considered well-mannered and well-behaved, doors open. People will invite you into their space and you will be able to get your ideas across.
Help others to be comfortable with you by acting the part. Extending courtesies such as “Please,” “Thank you,” and “Excuse me,” become so much a part of you that you will find people welcome you into their space because it’s more pleasant when you are there.
Focusing on etiquette serves to remind us to be kinder and nicer persons to others. As a result, people are nice in return. This reciprocity makes for a happier life!
Etiquette guides us to be mindful of other people and their needs. Using your awareness of those around you and the environment in which you find yourself, you can recognize when etiquette creates opportunities to help others and, also opportunities to receive help.
An add-on to the above practices is the following Quick Self-test on Self-conduct:
Gaining the confidence that learning etiquette offers helps you establish credibility in any situation. Kindness and respect anchor all etiquette rules and people recognize when they are backed by authenticity.
Etiquette defines how people draw the line between what is acceptable and what is not. Opportunity can be elusive, but etiquette-fulness always occasions the opportunity for opportunity.