The Art of Ending Conversations

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Ending conversations can be a bit tricky.  You don't want to appear rude, but it's time to get away.

Here are suggestions for doing so in a cordial manner.


Time to Hang Up

Phone conversations can be enjoyable, but there are times when they seem to drag on.  At the next pause, tell the person on the other end of the line that you need to go.

End your call with the appropriate "thank you" or arrange a good time to call back.  For a more casual conversation, "I'll call you later" is fine if you really intend to do so.

If there is no pause in the conversation and you just can't bring yourself to listen any longer, break in when it seems least rude and say something like, "I'm so sorry, I do want to have this conversation with you, but I really have to go.  Can we talk later?"

This dialogue is usually enough to free you.  But, as we all know, there are times when you may need to be firm with your request to speak at another time.  Situations vary and, aside from crossing into rude territory, handle them as best, and as friendly, as you can.


Ending Conversations at Parties

You're doing your best to network like a pro.  You've introduced yourself to someone with whom you're enjoying a pleasant exchange.  Now it's time to move on around the room.

There are a few different ways to handle ending conversations like these.

Probably the most polite way is to find someone to leave your new acquaintance with.  Bring another person into your conversation, make your introductions, then tell them, "I'll leave you two to discuss this further.  Please excuse me.  It was a pleasure to meet you."

You have done the good deed of helping your acquaintances network, and given yourself the exit you wanted.  A win-win!

If the person you're speaking with reveals that she knows several people at the gathering, you don't have to feel badly about exercising the option of politely excusing yourself and moving on.  Leave with a comment about what you enjoyed in the conversation.  "Jane, I enjoyed meeting you and hearing about your new project."

And if you're speaking with someone who is attending for the purpose of networking, you might thank him for stopping to speak with you and encourage him (and yourself) to continue meeting other people.  This actually gives you a common goal and something to follow up on later in the evening or, if you exchanged contact information, on another day.

If you're really having trouble getting away, it's always possible to get a word in edgewise, thank your acquaintance, and say, "It's been great speaking with you, Lily, and let's talk more later on.  I see someone I need to connect with."


When Out and About

You always run into someone you know when you least expect it.  Unfortunately, it isn't always a good time for a lengthy chat.

Avoid rudeness and acknowledge those you know when you're out and about.  But if you're on your way to an appointment, or would just like to go about your business alone, there's nothing wrong with keeping your encounter as brief as possible.

"Hello, it's great to see you" as you pass by is a good acknowledgement.  If you have the time and the inclination, you could inquire about the person's family, work, or other common ground you share. 

However, if the person you greet looks busy or is with someone else, and you could possibly be interrupting, it's probably best to stay with the shortest greeting above.


Keep it Friendly

Ending a conversation doesn't always come naturally if you're a chatty type.  (I know!) 

There's no need to fear offending anyone as long as you remain friendly, smiling, and genuine.  You can comment on looking forward to a next time.

One way to confirm your sincerity is to follow up with people.  Whether you've just met and exchanged business cards or you've been friends for years, call or email them and say it was good to see them.

Even if your conversation ended abruptly, making someone feel important can easily set things right.



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