Complimenting your coworkers is a natural thing to do. Not only is giving a compliment a great segue to a conversation, it shows appreciation and positivity.
But is it always the right thing to do?
As with many interactions, it depends on the situation and how you approach it.
Have you ever walked into a conference room, break room, or office meeting and heard coworkers doling out shallow compliments? You know the ones . . .
"You look great!"
"I love your shoes (dress, tie, suit, hairstyle, etc.)!"
"You're so awesome!"
Granted, when you spend five days a week and several hours a day with the same people, some sense of familiarity is likely to occur. Especially when you find things in common in your personal life as well as at work.
But when you're at work, your level of professionalism is going to be noticed. Especially if it is lacking.
And when you are only capable of complimenting coworkers, or anyone else, in a general, impulsive manner it quickly begins to sound insincere and labels you a Suck-up.
So, yes, extending a compliment to a coworker, boss, manager, or anyone else at work is a good and positive thing.
However, in order for your compliment to be appreciated and received as sincere, you have to give it in an appropriate manner.
If you're an insincere, impulsive "complimenter," or if you think you're just terrible at it to begin with, there is hope. Like any other mannerly skill, complimenting coworkers (or anyone else) can be learned.
Observing the four guidelines above is a great start. And there's more.
If you refrain from compliments because you don't like to be complimented, then start slowly. When you receive a compliment, the only necessary reply is, "thank you." Practice this in front of a mirror several times. It gets easier.
Then move on to giving compliments. The once-a-day guideline is helpful here, because you can consider each compliment you give a practice session. Good habit builder!
Pretty soon, you'll begin to appreciate the reactions you get and you'll learn the true secret of complimenting: giving them is much more fun than receiving them!